On November 8th 2016 Donald John Trump, a 70-year-old white male from the Republican Party, was elected president of the United States for the next four years.
He also happens to be a hate – and fear mongering bigot, misogynist, and racist. Oh, and accused of rape and sexual assault by several women, who do not have any connection to each other.
I spent the entire day yesterday in some kind of fog of disbelief. I have had a rough couple of weeks, with several different things going on, and this was the straw that broke the camels back. The first 4 hours of my day, I spent in bed, crying. Not the angry, sobbing crying, the one that floods out and can be stopped quickly, but the kind where it feels like you have sprung a small leak and can’t find it. It continues to trickle out of you, even when you don’t feel like you are crying. It just keeps coming.
Today is different. I am still sad and scared out of my mind, but the anger has set in too.
Now, I have an extremely low bullshit tolerance. This does not mean that I can’t hold a sober tone in a debate or discussion, or that I’m unable to understand a mindset that differs from mine, but it does mean that I have no problem hammering down on idiotic and ignorant remarks, that is spawned from a place of fear and hate, and drown thin arguments in research and logic. This is what my anger is telling me to do. It drives me to be ruthless in discussions, to embrace my low tolerance for bullshit, and have no shame in openly showing my contempt for morons, to yell and scream and protest.
This is NOT what I am going to do.
I am going to educate as best I can. I am going to explain the same thing, over and over again, no matter how tired and frustrated I am about having the same discussion all the time. The discussion is needed. The educating is needed.
I am going to promote what I miss in this world. Kindness and an open mind and heart. I am going to try even harder to put myself in other peoples shoes, to understand them, to understand the fear and unwillingness to change their mind.
I will NOT be a doormat. I will NOT be apologetic about my morals and beliefs. I will NOT stop fighting. I will NOT stop being angry. I will NOT take any bullshit.
But one does not exclude the other.
Be kind. Be understanding. Have respect for other people, no matter how much you disagree with them. You don’t have to be friends, or even like the person, you don’t have to keep that person in your life in any way. But have respect.
Don’t point fingers. Educate. Talk.
This has happened to the world because of ignorance, because of hate, because of dividing societies, that keeps on dividing, because of fear, because of lack of empathy.
It’s frankly downright stupid to think that we can fix this by doing the same thing. Let’s do the opposite.
Go do good. Go be the example.